Social Butterfly: A day at the office

They say that if you love what you do, you never work a day in your life. Never has that been more true if you look at the amazing job I have. A typical day at the office for me, is partying my ass off, going to events and weekends away, and best of all I get to fuel my passion by writing about it all.



So, my latest assignment was to cover a ladies only event and have as much fun as possible. I did just that! I could not have done so without Butchie and Captain Koek, and together we turned Edenvale into Jonesbay! When we arrived it was a bit empty, which is not unusual, as it was FREEZING, but the hosts anticipated the temperatures and greeted us with a tot of Sherry.


The evening started off a bit slow, so we had to make due with shooters and finding ways to entertain each other, and nobody does it better than the Captain. Had a good laugh when she put a rather unsavoury character right back in her place and the bosslady enjoyed that as well. CHEERS Koek! Jagerbombs, Po10C, Red squares, hunters extreme and Caramel Voddies were the order for the rest of the evening as we met some funky new people while waiting for the party to gather some steam!

When the DJ arrived then the real fun started. The music was awesome, the crowd was amazing, the dancefloor was packed and we had an amazing time shaking our booties to jams from LMFAO, Pitbull, J-Lo and David Guetta just to mention a few. Also saw a few familiar faces that lit up the joint. There's nothing like a good jam with some good mates. Party Party Party!!!

And of course, any social butterfly cannot fully enjoy her evening out, without a bit of romance on the side...and judging by all the couples kissing, cuddling and dancing suggestively, I'd say a great evening was had by all!

So, until Friday, when we hit the clubs again for the highlight of my social calendar, I will leave you with the wise words of Captain Koek...

"Rock it like a rockstar, Shake it like a pornstar!"

A collection of Quotations about Homosexuality by Carmen TeQuiero

When I was in the military they gave me a medal for killing two men and a discharge for loving one. ~Epitaph of Leonard P. Matlovich, 1988 (Thanks, Marlene)

If gay and lesbian people are given civil rights, theneveryone will want them! ~Author unknown, as seen on a button at evolvefish.com

The Bible contains six admonishments to homosexuals and 362 admonishments to heterosexuals. That doesn't mean that God doesn't love heterosexuals. It's just that they need more supervision. ~Lynn Lavner

My lesbianism is an act of Christian charity. All those women out there praying for a man, and I'm giving them my share. ~Rita Mae Brown

You don't have to be straight to be in the military; you just have to be able to shoot straight. ~Barry Goldwater

Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands? ~Ernest Gaines

It doesn't matter what you do in the bedroom as long as you don't do it in the street and frighten the horses. ~Daphne Fielding, The Duchess of Jermyn Street

Homosexuality is god's way of insuring that the truly gifted aren't burdened with children. ~Sam Austin

Isn't it a violation of the Georgia sodomy law for the Supreme Court to have its head up its ass? ~Letter to Playboy magazine, February 1987

Who would give a law to lovers? Love is unto itself a higher law. ~Boethius, The Consolation of Philosophy, A.D. 524

If homosexuality is a disease, let's all call in queer to work: "Hello. Can't work today, still queer." ~Robin Tyler

You know what they say: You can't teach a gay dog straight tricks. ~Trey Parker & Matt Stone, South Park

No government has the right to tell its citizens when or whom to love. The only queer people are those who don't love anybody. ~Rita Mae Brown, speech, 28 August 1982

You could move. ~Abigail Van Buren, "Dear Abby," in response to a reader who complained that a gay couple was moving in across the street and wanted to know what he could do to improve the quality of the neighborhood

War. Rape. Murder. Poverty. Equal rights for gays. Guess which one the Southern Baptist Convention is protesting? ~The Value of Families

If time and space are curved, where do all of the straight people come from? ~Author Unknown

Everybody's journey is individual. If you fall in love with a boy, you fall in love with a boy. The fact that many Americans consider it a disease says more about them than it does about homosexuality. ~James Baldwin

What is straight? A line can be straight, or a street, but the human heart, oh, no, it's curved like a road through mountains. ~Tennessee Williams, A Streetcar Named Desire, 1947

There is nothing wrong with going to bed with someone of your own sex. People should be very free with sex, they should draw the line at goats. ~Elton John

I'd rather be black than gay because when you're black you don't have to tell your mother. ~Charles Pierce, 1980

That word "lesbian" sounds like a disease. And straight men know because they're sure that they're the cure. ~Denise McCanles

As a mother, I know that homosexuals cannot biologically reproduce children; therefore, they must recruit our children. ~Anita Bryant, 1977

If gays are granted rights, next we'll have to give rights to prostitutes and to people who sleep with St. Bernards and to nailbiters. ~Anita Bryant

Anita Bryant like Anita hole in the head. ~Graffiti

The radical right is so homophobic that they're blaming global warming on the AIDS quilt. ~Dennis Miller

Jesse Helms and Newt Gingrich were shaking hands congratulating themselves on the introduction of an antigay bill in Congress. If it passes, they won't be able to shake hands, because it will then be illegal for a prick to touch an asshole. ~Judy Carter

My own belief is that there is hardly anyone whose sexual life, if it were broadcast, would not fill the world at large with surprise and horror. ~W. Somerset Maugham

Drag is when a man wears everything a lesbian won't. ~Author Unknown

Did you hear about the Scottish drag queen? He wore pants. ~Lynn Lavner

I'm a supporter of gay rights. And not a closet supporter either. From the time I was a kid, I have never been able to understand attacks upon the gay community. There are so many qualities that make up a human being... by the time I get through with all the things that I really admire about people, what they do with their private parts is probably so low on the list that it is irrelevant. ~Paul Newman

From various bumper stickers: My sexual orientation? Horizontal, usually. ~ I can't even think straight. ~ Let's get one thing straight, I'm not. ~ Straight But Not Narrow ~ Closets are for clothes. ~ I'm not a lesbian but my girlfriend is. ~ I'm not gay but my boyfriend is. ~ Equal rights are not special rights. ~ Homophobia is a social disease.

I am reminded of a colleague who reiterated "all my homosexual patients are quite sick" - to which I finally replied "so are all my heterosexual patients." ~Ernest van den Haag, psychotherapist

For a long time I thought I wanted to be a nun. Then I realized that what I really wanted to be was a lesbian. ~Mabel Maney

When it comes to exploring the sea of love, I prefer buoys. ~Andrew G. Dehel

What's the point of being a lesbian if a woman is going to look and act like an imitation man? ~Rita Mae Brown

The degree and kind of a man's sexuality reach up into the ultimate pinnacle of his spirit. ~Friedrich Nietzsche, Beyond Good and Evil, 1886

Why can't they have gay people in the army? Personally, I think they are just afraid of a thousand guys with M16s going, "Who'd you call a faggot?" ~John Stewart

If male homosexuals are called "gay," then female homosexuals should be called "ecstatic." ~Shelly Roberts

My mother took me to a psychiatrist when I was fifteen because she thought I was a latent homosexual. There was nothing latent about it. ~Amanda Bearse

Some women can't say the word lesbian... even when their mouth is full of one. ~Kate Clinton

One should no more deplore homosexuality than left-handedness. ~Towards a Quaker View of Sex, 1964

I think God is a callous bitch not making me a lesbian. I'm deeply disappointed by my sexual interest in men. ~Diamanda Galas

The one bonus of not lifting the ban on gays in the military is that the next time the government mandates a draft we can all declare homosexuality instead of running off to Canada. ~Lorne Bloch

Soldiers who are not afraid of guns, bombs, capture, torture or death say they are afraid of homosexuals. Clearly we should not be used as soldiers; we should be used as weapons. ~Letter to the editor, The Advocate

No matter how far in or out of the closet you are, you still have a next step. ~Author Unknown

People who can't think of anything else but whether the person you love is indented or convex should be doomed not to think of anything else but that, and so miss the other ninety-five percent of life. ~Robert Towne

It always seemed to me a bit pointless to disapprove of homosexuality. It's like disapproving of rain. ~Francis Maude

You are digging for the answers until your fingers bleed, to satisfy the hunger, to satiate the need.... And as you pray in your darkness for wings to set you free, you are bound to your silent legacy. ~Melissa Etheridge, "Silent Legacy," Yes I Am, 1993

To hear two American men congratulating each other on being heterosexual is one of the most chilling experiences - and unique to the United States. You don't hear two Italians sitting around complimenting each other because they actually like to go to bed with women. The American is hysterical about his manhood. ~Gore Vidal

There's this illusion that homosexuals have sex and heterosexuals fall in love. That's completely untrue. Everybody wants to be loved. ~Boy George

Straight Americans need... an education of the heart and soul. They must understand - to begin with - how it can feel to spend years denying your own deepest truths, to sit silently through classes, meals, and church services while people you love toss off remarks that brutalize your soul. ~Bruce Bawer, The Advocate, 28 April 1998

What are you trying to protect heterosexual marriages from? There isn't a limited amount of love in Iowa. It isn't a non-renewable resource. If Amy and Barbara or Mike and Steve love each other, it doesn't mean that John and Mary can't. ~Ed Fallon

People sometimes think I'm gay because I once played a gay in a movie. It's funny. Audiences don't think you're a murderer if you play a murderer, but they do think you're gay if you play a gay. ~Perry King

It's hard enough to be taken seriously in the struggle for gay rights without having a bunch of straight girls running around kissing each other to get the attention of boys and videocameras. ~M. Robin D'Antan, 2002

Let my lusts be my ruin, then, since all else is a fake and a mockery. ~Hart Crane

I get sick of listening to straight people complain about, "Well, hey, we don't have a heterosexual-pride day, why do you need a gay-pride day?" I remember when I was a kid I'd always ask my mom: "Why don't we have a Kid's Day? We have a Mother's Day and a Father's Day, but why don't we have a Kid's Day?" My mom would always say, "Every day is Kid's Day." To all those heterosexuals that bitch about gay pride, I say the same thing: Every day is heterosexual-pride day! Can't you people enjoy your banquet and not piss on those of us enjoying our crumbs over here in the corner? ~Rob Nash

Wouldn't it be great if you could only get AIDS from giving money to television preachers? ~Elayne Boosler

In itself, homosexuality is as limiting as heterosexuality: the ideal should be to be capable of loving a woman or a man; either, a human being, without feeling fear, restraint, or obligation. ~Simone de Beauvoir

Trust a nitwit society like this one to think that there are only two categories - fag and straight. ~Gore Vidal

Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night. ~Woody Allen

The world is not divided into sheeps and goats. Not all things are black nor all things white. It is a fundamental of taxonomy that nature rarely deals with discrete categories. Only the human mind invents categories and tries to force facts into separated pigeon-holes. The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects. The sooner we learn this concerning sexual behavior the sooner we shall reach a sound understanding of the realities of sex. ~Alfred Kinsey, Sexual Behavior in the Human Male, 1948

Labels are for filing. Labels are for clothing. Labels are not for people. ~Martina Navratilova

Labels? Okay, fine. I'm bisensual. Heteroflexible. And life-curious. That about covers it. ~Morgan Torva

The important thing is not the object of love, but the emotion itself. ~Gore Vidal

Pronouns make it hard to keep our sexual orientation a secret when our co-workers ask us about our weekend. "I had a great time with... them." Great! Now they don't think you're queer - just a big slut! ~Judy Carter

I can't help looking gay. I put on a dress and people say, "Who's the dyke in the dress?" ~Karen Ripley

The geography of my heart has hills of desire and valleys and meadows of love - for both men and women - a single day's trek passes through it all. ~Agavé Powers

It's a public service when a gay chick goes lipstick instead of lumberjack. ~Two and a Half Men, "Alan Harper, Frontier Chiropractor," teleplay by Lee Aronsohn and Mark Roberts, original airdate 15 December 2003, spoken by the character Charlie Harper

My cousin is an agoraphobic homosexual, which makes it kind of hard for him to come out of the closet. ~Bill Kelly

As long as society is anti-gay, then it will seem like being gay is anti-social. ~Joseph Francis

My mom blames California for me being a lesbian. "Everything was fine until you moved out there." "That's right, Mom, we have mandatory lesbianism in West Hollywood. The Gay Patrol busted me, and I was given seven business days to add a significant amount of flannel to my wardrobe. ~Coley Sohn

We love men. We just don't want to see them naked. ~Two Nice Girls

The next time someone asks you, "Hey, howdja get to be a homosexual anyway?" tell them, "Homosexuals are chosen first on talent, then interview... then the swimsuit and evening gown competition pretty much gets rid of the rest of them." ~Karen Williams

If Michelangelo had been straight, the Sistine Chapel would have been wallpapered. ~Robin Tyler

If you removed all of the homosexuals and homosexual influence from what is generally regarded as American culture, you would pretty much be left with "Let's Make a Deal." ~Fran Lebowitz

Girls who put out are tramps. Girls who don't are ladies. This is, however, a rather archaic usage of the word. Should one of you boys happen upon a girl who doesn't put out, do not jump to the conclusion that you have found a lady. What you have probably found is a Lesbian. ~Fran Lebowitz

About a year ago I was a guest on a network news show in New York. They were showing film clips from a gay pride parade down Fifth Avenue, but they only decided to show the part with men in dresses and heels. I had seen the parade, and there were men in business suits as well. After showing the film, the newsperson made some comments, and I found the comments extremely offensive. "This is what's wrong with the media," I said. "You show a fringe position. You show one point of view. You're closing the minds of the people by not showing them what the reality is." I got up and walked out, and I've never been asked back again. ~Kathleen Nolan

My urges to write poetry are lesbian, but whatever compels me to prose is straight. ~Agavé Powers

If adjustment is necessary, it should be made primarily with regard to the position the homosexual occupies in present-day society, and society should more often be treated than the homosexual. ~Harry Benjamin

Lesbianism has always seemed to me an extremely inventive response to a shortage of men, but otherwise not worth the trouble. ~Nora Ephron, Heartburn, 1983

If horse racing is the sport of kings, then drag racing must be the sport of queens. ~Bert R. Sugar

In an expanding universe, time is on the side of the outcast. Those who once inhabited the suburbs of human contempt find that without changing their address they eventually live in the metropolis. ~Quentin Crisp, The Naked Civil Servant, 1978

The diagnosis of homosexuality as a "disorder" is a contributing factor to the pathology of those homosexuals who do become mentally ill.... Nothing is more likely to make you sick than being constantly told that you are sick. ~Ronald Gold

Homosexuality is a sickness, just as are baby-rape or wanting to become head of General Motors. ~Eldridge Cleaver, "Notes on a Native Son," Soul on Ice, 1968

The Reagan Administration has fostered a climate in which a barest majority of the Supreme Court caters to the passions and hatreds of the American mob, stripping away the constitutional shield outside our bedrooms.... How tragically ironic that an Administration that promised to get Government "off our backs" is now so active in draping Government gumshoes over every part of our anatomies. ~Carl T. Rowan

An engineering professor is treating her husband, a loan officer, to dinner for finally giving in to her pleas to shave off the scraggly beard he grew on vacation. His favorite restaurant is a casual place where they both feel comfortable in slacks and cotton/polyester-blend golf shirts. But, as always, she wears the gold and pearl pendant he gave her the day her divorce decree was final. They're laughing over their menus because they know he always ends up diving into a giant plate of ribs but she won't be talked into anything more fattening than shrimp.

Quiz: How many biblical prohibitions are they violating? Well, wives are supposed to be 'submissive' to their husbands (I Peter 3:1). And all women are forbidden to teach men (I Timothy 2:12), wear gold or pearls (I Timothy 2:9) or dress in clothing that 'pertains to a man' (Deuteronomy 22:5). Shellfish and pork are definitely out (Leviticus 11:7, 10) as are usury (Deuteronomy 23:19), shaving (Leviticus 19:27) and clothes of more than one fabric (Leviticus 19:19). And since the Bible rarely recognizes divorce, they're committing adultery, which carries the rather harsh penalty of death by stoning (Deuteronomy 22:22).


So why are they having such a good time? Probably because they wouldn't think of worrying about rules that seem absurd, anachronistic or - at best - unrealistic. Yet this same modern-day couple could easily be among the millions of Americans who never hesitate to lean on the Bible to justify their own anti-gay attitudes. ~Deb Price, And Say Hi To Joyce

The Lord is my Shepherd and he knows I'm gay. ~Troy Perry

My mother made me a homosexual. If I gave her the wool, would she make me one too?~Graffiti, London, 1978

I like my beer cold, my TV loud, and my homosexuals flaming. ~Matt Groening,The Simpsons (Homer)

While many minority groups are the target for prejudice... and discrimination... in our society, few persons face this hostility without the support and acceptance of their family as do many gay, lesbian, and bisexual youth. ~Virginia Uribe and Karen Harbeck

Mothers, tell your children: be quick, you must be strong. Life is full of wonder, love is never wrong. Remember how they taught you, how much of it was fear. Refuse to hand it down - the legacy stops here. ~Melissa Etheridge, "Silent Legacy," Yes I Am, 1993

Bisexuality is a blessing and a curse, but viewing it as a schizophrenia will make you insane.... I am not a whole person with split desires: I am a whole person with desire. As everyone is, regardless. ~Agavé Powers

There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anaïs Nin

God has given you one face, and you make yourself another. ~William Shakespeare

Hateful to me as the gates of Hades is that man who hides one thing in his heart and speaks another. ~Homer

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. ~Harvey Fierstein

There is just one life for each of us: our own. ~Euripides

Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth. ~Benjamin Disraeli

If God had wanted me otherwise, He would have created me otherwise. ~Johann von Goethe

Every time you don't follow your inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness. ~Shakti Gawain

The most exhausting thing in life is being insincere. ~Anne Morrow Lindbergh

If you are ashamed to stand by your colors, you had better seek another flag. ~Author Unknown

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss

Men weary as much of not doing the things they want to do as of doing the things they do not want to do. ~Eric Hoffer

Is life not a hundred times too short for us to stifle ourselves. ~Friedrich Nietzsche

The white light streams down to be broken up by those human prisms into all the colors of the rainbow. Take your own color in the pattern and be just that. ~Charles R. Brown

It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere. ~Agnes Repplier

Resolve to be thyself; and know that he who finds himself, loses his misery. ~Matthew Arnold, "Self-Dependence," Empedocles on Etna, and Other Poems, 1852

There's a period of life when we swallow a knowledge of ourselves and it becomes either good or sour inside. ~Pearl Bailey

It's a helluva start, being able to recognize what makes you happy. ~Lucille Ball

For most men life is a search for the proper manila envelope in which to get themselves filed. ~Clifton Fadiman

You'll never find peace of mind until you listen to your heart. ~George Michael, "Kissing A Fool"

To know what you prefer, instead of humbly saying "Amen" to what the world tells you you ought to prefer, is to keep your soul alive. ~Robert Louis Stevenson

Do not follow where the path may lead. Go, instead, where there is no path and leave a trail. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself. ~Friedrich Nietzsche

My theory is that the hardest work anyone does in life is to appear normal. ~From the movie Ed TV

The plague of mankind is the fear and rejection of diversity: monotheism, monarchy, monogamy and, in our age, monomedicine. The belief that there is only one right way to live, only one right way to regulate religious, political, sexual, medical affairs is the root cause of the greatest threat to man: members of his own species, bent on ensuring his salvation, security, and sanity. ~Thomas Szasz

~Carmen TeQuiero

Guest Writer: You are a stranger to me - A poem by Butchie

You are a stranger to me

We had good times but these days I don’t know you
Maybe because I don’t want to know you
You are a stranger to me

You took away my belief in love
You turned me into someone I don’t want to be
I allowed it at the time and as time passed im still who you wanted me to be
I want to be a stranger to you

The pieces of my broken heart still flows in you

You broke it but never did you fix it
Overwhelmed with hurt and memories of you
I sit and wait until no one comes

You walked out my life and back in more than once

Every time you left you broke me
I never meant to hurt you
You are a stranger to me

Stay away

Stay out of my mind
Leave me alone
Just stay away

I don’t want you

I don’t need you
I don’t love you
But I do remember you

-Butchie Jones

Pink GirlFest Winter run up event towards the 2012 Festival‏

Alright ladies get your passports ready! We are going to the beautiful Mahlasela Valley in Lesotho 3,222m above sea level for a weekend of fun in the snow!
Price: R3,200.00 per person

Included in package deal: - Travel to and from Lesotho in a semi luxury coach liner (ex JHB)
- 2 Nights accommodation at New Oxbow Lodge (gay friendly)
- 2 Dinners at New Oxbow Lodge (3 course meal and a glass of wine)
- 2 Breakfasts at New Oxbow Lodge (farmhouse / full range of cereals)
- 2 Day ski pass into Afriski Resort (gay friendly)
- 4 Hour ski lesson at Afriski Resort (compulsory for beginners)
- 2 Day rental of ski equipment set (option of ski's / snowboard, boots included)

Space limited to 64 ladies.

 

Rooms:

3 Rooms: 1 Double + 2 Single

4 Rooms: 4 Single

1 Room: 1 Double + 4 Single

10 Rooms: 1 Double + 1 Single

On Saturday evening, we get a show from all the instructors: They go up the slope and come down in formation with torches and do a 'haka haka' and call it a SKI BURN, he he! Then it's party time afterwards at Afri Ski pub!!!

What to pack:- A valid passport.
- Warm clothing.
- Gloves.
- Preferably waterproof pants and jacket to ski in.
- Toiletries.
- No need to pack towels or linen.

Note:Vegetarian meals available, kindly contact us in advance to arrange.
Great news:No cellphone reception ;-)
Departure arrangements:We will all meet at Cafe Culture in Fourways and start the roadtrip 10:00 the 12th of August 2011 and departure from New Oxbow Lodge approximately 16:00 the 14th of August 2011.

Outside the borders of Gauteng AND not making use of the coach liner:
R3,000.00 per person
Payment: 50% deposit on or before the 30th of June 2011 to secure your booking and settlement on or before the 31st of July 2011. No refunds on cancellations.
Kindly call or e-mail before making a deposit to enquire if there is still space available.
No refunds on cancellations.
Banking details:Pink GirlFest
FNB
Volksrust branch, code: 270543
Account no: 62138149473
Reference: Name and surname

Contact details:Cell: Judith Nel 082 976 7997
E-mail: pinkgirlfest@telkomsa.net

The Cunning Linguist: Talking the talk

Amazon
Amazon is derived from Greek Mythology. In Greek Mythology, Amazon described a powerful, strong woman. Today this term has also been adopted to described a particularly powerful, strong lesbian.
Baby Dyke
Baby dyke has two applications. Firstly it refers to someone who has just come out of the closet and a "new" lesbian. Secondly, the term also refers to a young lesbian.
Bisexual
Bisexual refers to a person who is attracted to both males and females.
Boi
Boi refers to a lesbian who has a boyish appearance.
Bulldyke
Bulldyke is thought to be a negative term that refers to a lesbian who is very masculine.
Butch
A Butch also refers to a lesbian with masculine characteristics.
Cougar
Cougar has typically been used by the heterosexuak world to refer to an older woman who likes younger men. It has (although rarely) been used by the lesbian community to refer to an older lesbian that is usually thought to not be desireable.
Crone
Crone is often thought to be a negative term. Crone refers to an older lesbian. The thought is that the older lesbian with more life experience should be shown respect.
Cross Dresser
A cross dresser refers to an individual who wears the clothing of the opposite sex. Typically a cross dresser wears the clothing of their sex during work hours etc. and clothing from the opposite sex during recreational times.
De-dyking the House
De-dyking the house refers to putting away or hiding everything that would reveal that the occupants are in a gay or lesbian relationship. Sometimes partners will have two separate bedrooms set up so that when visitors come over (who do not know about their relationship), that it does not appear that they are in a relationship.
Diesel Dyke
A diesel dyke is a butchy lesbian. The diesel dyke often has an aggressive nature. Typically a diesel dyke will be employed as a truck driver or other such masculine driven industries.
Domestic Partners
Domestic partners means more than the term partner. Partner refers to two people in a relationship. Domestic partner refers to two people who are in a relationship and who live together. People in a domestic partnership are not married, nor are they in a civil union. Typically the term partner had been used for same sex relationships, but more recently it is common to hear opposite sex relationships refer to themselves as partners.
Drag King
A Drag King is a woman that dresses like a man, usually for a performance or act of some kind. Drag Kings are not necessarily lesbians.
Dyke
The term dyke refers to a lesbian. The term is usually acceptable if used by people of bisexual, gay, lesbian or transgender nature. However, dyke is a negative term if used by a heterosexual person.
Ex-Gay Therapy
Ex-gay therapy refers to the belief that lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgender people can be given therapy to change them into a straight person. This movement is typically driven by people of "faith."
Femme
A Femme is a feminine lesbian.
Gayborhood
Gayborhood refers to a section or location within a City that is gay friendly or that has a lot of gay stores, bars and such where gays and lesbians hang out or live.
Gaydar
Gaydar refers to one's ability to determine or tell is another person is gay or lesbian.
Gender Identitiy
Gender identity refers to the sex a person feels like on the inside. A person's gender identity does not necessarily match the sex that they were born. People of gender identity usually have a gender expression meaning that they will express their gender identity outwardly by the clothes they where or by the way they act (gender variance).
Gender Variance
Gender variance refers to the way a lesbian or gay acts in relation to their gender identity. In other words, a lesbian who feels that their gender identity is that of male typically has a gender variance (or acts) more like a male. Gender variance is opposite to the typical male acting as male and female acting as female.
Girl Crush
A girl crush is a crush between two women that is not of sexual nature.
Gold Star Lesbian
A gold star lesbian refers to a lesbian that has never had sex with the opposite sex.
Hasbian
A hasbian refers to an ex-lesbian.
Homophobia
Homophobia refers to the dislike or distain for people who are not heterosexual.
Lipstck Lesbian
A liptick lesbian refers to a lesbian who is into her lipstick (makeup), clothes and shoes. Sometimes a lipstick lesbian is also called a Barbie Doll lesbian. A lipstick lesbian is usually always seen all "dolled" up.
Lesbian
A lesbian is a woman who is attracted to other women. This same sex attraction is on a sexual and emotional level.
Lone Star Lesbian
A lone star lesbian refers to a lesbian that has only had sex with one woman.
Out of the Closet
Out of the closet refers to someone who is comfortable and open about their sexual orientation.
Pillow Queen
A pillow queen refers to a lesbian who likes to be on the receiving end of sexual pleasure and who does not want or like to return the experience.
Power Dyke
A power dyke is a lesbian in a position of power.
Second Parent Adoption
Second parent adoption refers to when one partner adopts the other partners biological child.
Sexual Orientation
Sexual orientation refers to your sexual preference whether is is heterosexual or same sex attraction.
Stone Butch Lesbian
A stone butch lesbian refers to a lesbian who likes to pleasure her partner, but does not like to herself be pleasured.
Switching Teams
Switching teams refers to the switch from a heterosexual lifestyle to a gay or lesbian lifestyle.
Queer
Queer refers to people other than heterosexuals. Queer is a negative term.
Transsexual
Transsexual refers to a person who has the desire to be the opposite sex. Sometimes transsexual people have surgery called reassignment surgery to become the sex they desire to be.
Transgender
Transgender refers to a person who outwardly expresses their gender as the opposite to their born sex.
Trans
Trans refers to transgender and transsexual people. Trans covers people of gender variance.
Two Spirited
Two spirited is an Aboriginal term refering to gays and lesbians. Aboriginal people refer to gays and lesbians as two spirited as it is believed that they have two spirits (one masculine and one feminine) and that is what drives their gay/lesbian sexual and emotional desires.

The Modern L’s pick of the ten best Lesbian Themed Movies:

10. Bound is a 1996 neo-noir crime thriller film directed by the Wachowski brothers. Violet (Jennifer Tilly), who longs to escape her relationship with her mafioso boyfriend Caesar (Joe Pantoliano), enters into a clandestine affair with alluring ex-con Corky (Gina Gershon), and the two women hatch a scheme to steal $2 million of mafia money.

Bound was the first film directed by the Wachowskis, and they took inspiration from Billy Wilder to tell a noir story filled with sex and violence. Financed by Dino De Laurentiis, the film was made on a tight budget with the help of frugal crew members including cinematographer Bill Pope. The directors initially struggled to cast the lesbian characters of Violet and Corky before securing Tilly and Gershon. To choreograph the sex scenes, the directors employed sex educator Susie Bright, who has a bit part in the film.

Bound received positive reviews from film critics who praised the humor and style of the directors as well as the realistic portrayal of a lesbian relationship in a mainstream film. Detractors of the film criticized the excessive violence and superficiality of the plot. The film won several festival awards.

9. High Art. Sydney (or simply 'Syd'), age 24, is a woman who has her whole life mapped out in front of her. Living with longtime boyfriend James, and working her way up at the respected high-art photography magazine Frame, Syd has desires and frustrations that seem typical and manageable. But when a crack in her ceiling springs a leak and Syd finds herself knocking on the door of her upstairs neighbor, a chance meeting suddenly takes her on a new path.

Opening the door to an uncharted world for Syd is Lucy Berliner, a renowned photographer, enchanting, elusive, and curiously retired. Now 40, Lucy lives with her once glamorous, heroin-addicted German girlfriend Greta, and plays host to a collection of hard-living party kids. Before Syd's caught her breath, she's caught Lucy's fascination and is drawn into the center of Lucy's strangely alluring life upstairs.

Syd mentions Lucy to her bosses (without realising that she is famous) but they remain uninterested until they realise exactly who Lucy is. At a lunch, Lucy agrees to work for the magazine as long as Syd is her editor. Soon a working relationship develops between the two and a project is underway which promises a second chance for Lucy's career. But as Syd and Lucy's collaboration draws them closer together, their working relationship turns sexual and the lines between love and professionalism suddenly blur. As Syd slowly discovers the darker truths of Lucy's life on the edge, she is forced to confront her own hunger for recognition and the uncertain rewards of public esteem.

8. Better Than Chocolate. Maggie (Karyn Dwyer) has recently moved out on her own, and has started a relationship with another woman, Kim (Christina Cox). However, Maggie's mother Lila (Wendy Crewson) and brother, who are forced to move into her loft sublet with her, are unaware that she is a lesbian. Maggie's freedom is compromised, and she believes she must keep her blossoming affair a secret. However, the clandestine romance introduces Maggie's family to a host of new experiences, many of which are "better than chocolate."

The cast also includes Ann-Marie MacDonald as Frances, the owner of a lesbian bookstore where Maggie works, and Peter Outerbridge as Judy, a trans woman with a crush on Frances.

7.The Kids Are All Right. Nic (Annette Bening) and Jules (Julianne Moore) are a married lesbian couple living in California. They have each given birth to a child using the same sperm donor. Nic, an obstetrician, is the primary breadwinner and the stricter parent, while Jules, a housewife who is starting up a landscape design business, is more laid back.

The younger child Laser (Josh Hutcherson) wants to find his sperm donor but has to be 18 to do so. He begs his 18-year-old sister Joni (Mia Wasikowska) to contact the sperm bank and determines that Paul (Mark Ruffalo) is the donor. The three meet. Joni is impressed by his bohemian lifestyle, and Paul is enthusiastic about being in their lives. Joni swears Laser to secrecy as she does not want to upset their mothers. However, Jules and Nic find out and invite Paul over to dinner. When Jules reveals she has a landscape business, Paul asks her to landscape his back garden. Jules agrees, although Nic does not like the idea.

While working for Paul, Jules likes that he appreciates her work in contrast to Nic who, Jules feels, never supported her career. Jules impulsively kisses Paul one afternoon, and they end up in bed together, beginning an affair.

Jules and the kids start spending more time with Paul. Nic believes Paul undermines her authority over the children, for example, by giving Joni a ride on his motorcycle, which Nic has forbidden, and suggesting she give Joni more freedom. After a heated argument with Jules, Nic suggests they all have dinner at Paul's house to ease the tension. Nic relaxes and makes a connection with Paul over their mutual love for Joni Mitchell. However, Nic discovers traces of Jules's hair in Paul's bathroom and bedroom. When they return home, Nic confronts Jules. At first, Jules denies it but then admits to the affair. Nic is devastated, but Jules insists she is not in love with Paul and has not turned straight; she just wanted to be appreciated. The household becomes very tense with Jules sleeping on the couch. The children are angry at Jules and Paul. Paul thinks he has fallen for Jules and suggests she leave Nic, bring the kids, and come live with him. Jules declines, disgusted with Paul's lack of understanding about their relationship.

The night before Joni leaves home to go to college, Paul turns up at the house. Nic angrily confronts him, calling him an interloper, and tells him that if he wants a family, he should make one of his own. Rejected, Paul watches the kids from outside through the window, trying to get their attention, but they, too, turn away. Later that night, Jules tearfully admits her errors to her family and begs their forgiveness. The next morning, the family takes Joni off to college. While Nic and Jules together hug Joni to say goodbye, they also affectionately touch each other. During the ride home, Laser tells his mothers that they should not break up because they are too old. Jules and Nic giggle, and the film ends with them smiling at each other and holding hands

6. Black Swan is a 2010 American psychological thriller film directed by Darren Aronofsky and starring Natalie Portman, Vincent Cassel, and Mila Kunis. Its plot revolves around a production of Tchaikovsky's Swan Lake ballet by a prestigious New York City company. The production requires a ballerina to play both the innocent White Swan and the sensual Black Swan. One dancer, Nina (Portman), is a perfect fit for the White Swan, while Lily (Kunis) has a personality that matches the Black Swan. When the two compete for the parts, Nina finds a dark side to herself.

Aronofsky conceived the premise by connecting his viewings of a production of Swan Lake with an unrealized screenplay about understudies and the notion of being haunted by a double, similar to the folklore surrounding doppelgängers. Aronofsky cites Fyodor Dostoyevsky's "The Double" as another inspiration for the film. The director also considered Black Swan a companion piece to his 2008 film The Wrestler, with both films involving demanding performances for different kinds of art. He and Portman first discussed the project in 2000, and after a brief attachment to Universal Studios, Black Swan was produced in New York City in 2009 by Fox Searchlight Pictures. Portman and Kunis trained in ballet for several months prior to filming and notable figures from the ballet world helped with film production to shape the ballet presentation.

The film premiered as the opening film for the 67th Venice International Film Festival on September 1, 2010. It had a limited release in the United States starting December 3, 2010 and opened nationwide on December 17. Black Swan received critical praise upon its release, particularly for Portman's performance and Aronofsky's direction. Portman won the Academy Award for Best Actress for the film, as well as many other Best Actress awards in several guilds and festivals, while Aronofsky was nominated for Best Director. In addition, the film itself received a nomination for Best Picture.

5. Monster is a 2003 crime drama film about serial killer Aileen Wuornos, a former prostitute who was executed in 2002 for killing six men (she was not tried for a seventh murder) in the late 1980s and early 1990s. Wuornos was played by Charlize Theron and her lover, Selby Wall, was played by Christina Ricci. The film was written and directed by Patty Jenkins.

Much of Theron's preparation for the role is credited to Nick Broomfield's 1992 documentary, Aileen Wuornos: The Selling of a Serial Killer, of which Charlize reportedly watched clips between takes. Theron won seventeen awards for her portrayal, including the Academy Award for Best Actress, Golden Globe Award for Best Actress and the Screen Actors Guild Awards for Outstanding Lead Actress.

4. But I'm a Cheerleader is a 1999 satirical romantic comedy film directed by Jamie Babbit and written by Brian Wayne Peterson. Natasha Lyonne stars as Megan Bloomfield, an apparently happy heterosexual high school cheerleader. However, her friends and family are convinced that she is a homosexual and arrange an intervention, sending her to a residential inpatient reparative therapy camp to cure her lesbianism. There Megan soon realizes that she is indeed a lesbian and, despite the therapy, gradually comes to embrace her sexual orientation. The supporting cast includes Dante Basco, Eddie Cibrian, Clea DuVall, Cathy Moriarty, RuPaul, Richard Moll, Mink Stole, Kip Pardue, and Bud Cort.

But I'm a Cheerleader was Babbit's first feature film. It was inspired by an article about conversion therapy and her childhood familiarity with rehabilitation programs. She used the story of a young woman finding her sexual identity to explore the social construction of gender roles and heteronormativity. The costume and set design of the film highlighted these themes using artificial textures in intense blues and pinks.

Many critics did not like the film, comparing it unfavorably with the films of John Waters and criticizing the colorful production design. Although the lead actors were praised for their performances, some of the characters were described as stereotypical.

3. Imagine Me & You is a 2005 British-German comedy-romance film written and directed by Ol Parker. It centres on the relationship between Rachel, played by Piper Perabo and Luce, played by Lena Headey, who meet on Rachel's wedding day. The movie takes its title from a line in the song "Happy Together". The film opens on Rachel (Piper Perabo) and Hector's (Matthew Goode) wedding day. Rachel's bossy mother Tess (Celia Imrie) and adorably dazed dad Ned (Anthony Head) are introduced. Luce, (Lena Headey) who manages a flower shop, is the wedding florist. She also makes fast friends with Rachel's younger sister, Henrietta (nicknamed "H" because, according to Henrietta, her mother exclaimed "Jesus H. Christ!" upon discovering she was pregnant). However, as Rachel is walking up the aisle, her eyes meet Luce's and a connection is made.

2. If These Walls Could Talk 2 is an Emmy Award-winning 2000 television movie in the United States, broadcast on HBO. It follows three separate storylines about lesbian couples in three different time periods. As with the original If These Walls Could Talk, all the stories are set in the same house. The film is similar to the 2000 film Common Ground.

The first segment is set in 1961, and stars Vanessa Redgrave as Edith Tree. It concerns the death of Tree's lover and soulmate, Abby Hedley, played by Marian Seldes, and Tree's exclusion from subsequent "family" matters.

The second segment, featuring Chloë Sevigny and Michelle Williams is set in 1972, and involves bitter divisions in the feminist movement at the time.

The third segment is set in the "present-day", is more light-hearted, and features Sharon Stone and Ellen DeGeneres as a lesbian couple trying for a baby.

The segments were directed by Jane Anderson, Martha Coolidge, and Anne Heche respectively

1. Boys Don't Cry is a 1999 American independent romantic drama film directed by Kimberly Peirce and co-written by Andy Bienen. The film is a dramatization of the real-life story of Brandon Teena, a transgender man played by Hilary Swank, who pursues a relationship with a young woman, played by Chloë Sevigny, and is beaten, raped and murdered by his male acquaintances after they discover he is anatomically female. The picture explores the themes of freedom, courage, identity and empowerment. The film was distributed by Fox Searchlight Pictures and was released theatrically in October 1999.

After reading about the murder of Brandon Teena while in college, Peirce intently researched the case—as well as Teena's life—and worked on a screenplay for the film for almost five years. All She Wanted, the 1993 book about the case written by Aphrodite Jones, inspired Peirce, but she chose to focus the story on the relationship between Teena and his girlfriend Lana Tisdel. Many actors campaigned for the lead over the course of three years; the then unknown Swank was cast because her personality seemed similar to Teena's. The film also stars Chloë Sevigny, Peter Sarsgaard, Brendan Sexton III, Alicia Goranson, Jeanetta Arnette, and Matt McGrath. The majority of characters were based on real-life people, while some were composites. Shooting lasted from October until November 1998 and filming took place in various locations throughout Texas.

Boys Don't Cry premiered at the New York Film Festival on October 8, 1999 to overwhelmingly positive acclaim from critics. Praise was generally focused on the two lead performances by Swank and Sevigny. The film received a limited nationwide release on October 22, 1999, and performed moderately well at the North American box office. At the 72nd Academy Awards in 2000, Swank was awarded an Oscar for Best Actress, while Sevigny was nominated for Best Supporting Actress. The film has been cited as one of the most controversial and talked-about films of 1999, initially being assigned an NC-17 rating, later modified to an R rating. The release of the film was concurrent with the murder of a young gay man, Matthew Shepard, which sparked additional public interest.^[1] The film was named after the song of the same name by The Cure, and a cover version of the song appears in the film.