SEPTEMBER 2012

THE SPRING FEVER ISSUE

Unsung Heroes



I first did a post about Dibanani CT before Easter this year 'Time to give a little' when they were trying to collect 10 000 Easter eggs to hand out in Blikkiesdorp. Many people in boxed me to ask me to do a follow-up post about how it went. As you can well imagine, 10 000 eggs was an almost impossible task but they went for it with guns blazing anyway. Quite a few eggs were donated but not nearly enough to make sure no children were left disappointed - not even close. What the guys decided to do was take the eggs they did manage to collect to some of the safe houses under their care and distribute the chocolate loveliness there along with some toys.



The money that was collected was put to use to start the Dibanani CT feeding scheme. I asked Seppie what made them start the feeding scheme and he told me that apart from their work with abused and abandoned children they also have workshops at impoverished schools to build self esteem. Some of the kids fainted during the workshops so Seppie decided to investigate and discovered that these children are not getting regular meals and a few teachers were providing meals at break times out of their own pockets. On the 1st of April 2012 Dibanani CT started the feeding scheme and did the first daily delivery of a meal and a fruit for each child. Seppie usually prepares the food the night before (he’s even been known to bake the bread rolls himself!) and delivers it to the school in the mornings.



The meals get handed out in the classrooms so that the children won’t get teased by their classmates. What is heartbreaking is that for many of these kids the meal they get at break time is the only meal they get all day. Knowing the Care Bears, they probably have sleepless nights over weekends and school holidays about the fact that these children are going hungry without their help. Considering how hard it’s been for Dibanani CT to raise funds I also suspect that a lot of what is needed is being sponsored by them personally. They have big plans for the feeding scheme, they’ve already identified need in 2 other schools and their dream is for Dibanani CT to eventually have the feeding scheme cover most of Cape Town’s impoverished areas. A mobile kitchen that can service a lot of schools in a day would be ideal but for that they would need a vehicle with a driver and fuel, daily food stock, gas stoves, refrigeration and large cooking pots. Currently there are 35 children being fed at a cost of about R6-00 a day which works out to roughly R200-00 a day or R1000-00 a week. The stress they’re faced with at the moment is lack of funding. How does one commit to feeding a child and then just stop? If they don’t get help soon that’s exactly what is going to happen. They’ve been involved with NPO’s before that closed due to lack of funding, so they know exactly what is at stake. One of the things I love most about Seppie is that he left a previous NPO because the people who were in charge were more interested in what they could do for themselves with the money they raised instead of using it for their NPO. One hears about that kind of thing so often, which is why most people are a bit dubious about NPO’s. Not the Care Bears though, NO WAY!!!



I’ve spoken to a lot of people and the general attitude seems to be that either someone else will make a big donation or with the economy being what it is they can only afford to give R50-00 and are too embarrassed to do so because it seems like nothing. Well, let me tell you guys something. R50-00 might seem like little but if a lot of people commit to R50-00 it will make a big difference. A massive one. Every single cent counts and every single cent puts food in a child’s mouth.
Care Bears is a safe house run by Seppie and Danie and they are in the process of adopting 2 girls and a boy who have been with them for 2 and a half years and they have become their whole life, these children mean the absolute world to them. I've been fortunate enough to see the gorgeous family pictures they are always taking and their childrens' eyes are always shining, always! Dibanani CT have also taken 2 other safe houses under their wing and are responsible for any needs that arise. To give you an idea, just in the last week 3 babies have been rescued. Twin baby boys they estimate to be about 1 year old who are so severely malnourished they only weigh about 5 kg’s and one of them suffers from Foetal Alcohol Syndrome. The safe house they are being cared for in is so poor that the babies are sleeping in a shopping cart at the moment but thankfully Seppie is going to build them a cot. The other baby is a little girl who was sitting on her drunken mother’s lap in front of an open fire and got very badly burnt. Seppie told me that she was enjoying the love and attention from them thoroughly when they went to see her and take supplies to the safe house and they found it incredibly hard to leave.



Considering that there are only 4 people who are the main driving force behind Dibanani CT, I have no idea how they manage to find the time to do everything they do. Apart from the feeding scheme they’re also involved in the safe houses, HIV/AIDS awareness drives, raising money for school fees and school supplies for the older kids in the safe houses, educating people about Foetal Alcohol Syndrome and doing whatever they can for the forgotten people of Blikkiesdorp. I love hearing some of the stories from the guys about that. For example, Jaco told me that last year Dibanani CT went to Blikkiesdorp and handed out what would seem to be a very minimal meal to most people but to this community it was a source of food for a couple of minutes, and jubilant shouts of "hot dogs!" could be heard around the camp. After organizing and managing a line that looked like it was never going to end, they started handing out hot dogs (to children first, of course) and they had to shake their tail feathers very quickly to organise themselves – creating a production line to get these unexpected treats handed out to the people. Before they knew it an hour and a half had gone by with no end to the line in sight and one particular little boy was spotted changing his clothes twice to ensure he got more than one hot dog! Greed you ask?! No. Hunger? YES! They also recently held a blanket drive to collect blankets for the safe houses and when they went to deliver the blankets the children all came outside with huge smiles and great excitement to see them again, even though they had no idea that the guys were bearing gifts, they were just really happy to see them.






Dibanani CT's mission statement is quite simple really. Simple but profound if you think of the ripple effect it will create. They want to provide a safe and loving home for as many children in need as they possibly can, make sure those children get a decent education so that they can have a real chance at a future, they want to help the safe houses and the surrounding impoverished communities as much as they humanly can, continue with their feeding scheme and extend it to encompass more schools and they want to focus on their HIV/AIDS awareness and Foetal Alcohol Syndrome campaigns.







I shudder to think about what these men have seen firsthand. Little girls, pre-teens who should still be playing with dolls, who have been raped by HIV positive family members that fall pregnant and are left on the streets with a newborn baby. Innocent children who have been beaten black and blue. Babies who are left in dustbins to die. They have taken an incredible responsibility onto their shoulders – to commit to care for these children despite the fact that raising money for their NPO is extremely difficult in this financial climate. The stress must be absolutely enormous. So often we read in the newspapers about babies who have been brutally raped and we hear about child abuse and wish we could do something about it. This, right here, is your chance. If you want to make a difference and help these men with the amazing things they do every single day, please visit the Dibanani CT Facebook group or their website and do your bit.



 









These Care Bears are normal people, people with jobs, people like you and me, and they take time out of their busy lives every day to make a difference. I am always humbled when I see how much they are actually involved with. It’s not just the feeding scheme, it’s the safe houses, rescuing children from the most appalling conditions imaginable, the HIV/AIDS awareness drives, helping wherever they can in poor communities and putting their hearts into what they do. There are constant updates on their Facebook Group Dibanani CT/ Care Bears and a lot of information on their website http://www.dibananict.co.za/ so do yourselves a favour and go check it out. In this freezing cold weather I’m hard pressed to think of anything more potentially heart-warming than to make a difference and to put a smile on a cold and hungry child’s face.

Thanks for taking the time to read this, and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t hope it made you want to help...
GeeGee xoxo


Reflections - Ladies for Rhino Conservation




12th June 2012

Contact:                Ms Si-lest’ Gomes

Email:                   si-lest@hotmail.com

Web:                     www.facebook.com/MusesEvents

Muses Ladies Events presents: ‘Reflections – Ladies for Rhino conservation’



Female Group Art Exhibition and Live Music in aid of Rhino Conservation



Johannesburg, RSA – June, 2012 – On June 30th, 2012, Muses Ladies Events will be hosting “Reflections – Ladies for Rhino conservation” – from 16h00 (for 16h30) till late, at Café Culture, Pineslopes Shopping Centre, Fourways.



More than 30 professional creative ladies have joined forces against rhino poaching. The event includes a female mixed media group art exhibition entitled: “Female Reflections”, live music, auction and charity run.



Opening:

Lorinda Hern – Rhino Rescue Project

Bonné de Bod (50/50 SABC2) – presentation on Rhino Poaching and Nature Conservation.

Lara Kirsten – The Wild Reflex – performance art.

Catherine Grenfell (5fm) – auctioneer for charity run. Sponsored prizes and art on auction.



Musicians: Josie Field unplugged, Natalie Chapman, Philippa Sutherland, Marcia Moon and Adel Hughes, Margaret’s Daughter, SI-ANNE, Lizban and Polar Dust. Musicians and entertainers have all donated their time for the cause.



Artists: Galleria Gibello (Caroline Gibello), Marinda du Toit, Marna Schoeman, René Bohnen, Si-lest’, Liebet, Frances Lozear, Liani, Riana van Staden, Marittie de Villiers and Izanne Wiid.

Mediums include: photography, painting, sculpture, drawing, functional art, mixed media and performance art.





Charity Details:

Rhino poaching numbers have ascended at an alarming speed the last four years. From 83 reported poachings in 2008, to 448 reported poachings in 2011. Current poaching numbers for 2012 is already at 245 – June 12th, 2012. Approx 1.5 rhino per day. At this rate the African rhino is in great danger of being extinct in as little as seven years time. Statistics show that we might be losing up to 600 or more rhino this year.



Rhino hunting is still legal in South Africa – despite numerous petitions, letters and attempts from various nature conservation groups and organizations, to bring it to a close. This increases the number of rhino deaths immensely.  



Rhino Rescue Project, is the primal beneficiary for the event:

“Our mission is to provide a sustainable, cost effective defensive strategy to protect rhinos in South Africa and elsewhere from poaching. Our all-inclusive, holistic protection program includes horn treatment (*not removal), indelible dye, microchips, tracking technology and DNA sampling and storage.”



Event details:

Date:                     30 June 2012                                                               Time:                  16h00 for 16h30

Venue:                  Café Culture                                                                 Web:                 www.cafeculture.co.za

Guests:                 Ladies only. Art, Culture and Wildlife lovers.                Dress Code:        Smart Casual

Entry tickets:         R100 p/p.  Bookings essential – no tickets available at the door. No u/18s.

Includes:               Charity run, Canapé, Welcome drink, Art exhibition, Live Music and entertainment.

Address:               Pineslopes Shopping Centre, Corner: Witkoppen and The Straight, Fourways. JHB

Available from:      Si-lest’ Gomes              e:   si-lest@hotmail.com                 w: www.facebook.com/MusesEvents


Event details and invitation can be viewed at



Guest writer: My first girl crush


I'm not sure how to say this without going bright red, but I like someone. Not just any someone, a girl. Not just any girl, the cutest girl I've ever seen, with huge eyes that make her look surprised 24/7, a girl that laughed at the stupid things I said, my first ever girl-crush.

I never really knew I liked girls before, I always knew that I'd never limit or label myself though, I guess this day was bound to come eventually. I just didn't think it would be so soon. It was an ordinary day, I was with some family and friends, then I saw her, standing with a cigarette in her hand, her hair flying in the wind and wide eyes looking out at the view. I was amazed.

I would have given anything for her to notice me, to start a conversation or even if I could just open my mouth and say something. I was too shy, she was too cute, mostly she was just really cute... I tried to work up the nerve to talk to her, to be funny, or cool, or anything. I went through the day trying hard not to stare at her, not too act like a kitten following a piece of string.

 I didn't know what to do, I've had crushes on boys before, but never a girl, it still confuses me and I think it will for a while. I'm not use to liking girls, it’s so new and different, but so exciting, it’s like an adrenaline rush. Every time I think about her I can feel myself blush, every time I saw her pretty face I couldn't help but smile. I thought she was just cute until we actually spoke...

Everyone had left us alone for just a few minutes, those minutes were amazing. Just talking to her and hearing her voice was enough to get me smiling like an idiot, until I found out she was funny and smart which made me like her even more, if it were even possible. We were having fun until everyone came back and interrupted us, I gave them death glares strong enough to heat up the room, but again, no one was paying attention to me.

I went home with her on my mind, left, right and centre. I was too scared to tell anyone, afraid of what they might say but I was so excited and nervous and curious, I had to tell someone. It took me a while to work up the courage but I finally did. As soon as I said I was terrified my heart was pounding and I was a bright crimson, until they laughed and called my crush cute, I was still bright red but the fear had passed and I just felt silly.

No matter how much I wanted her she was too old for me and she'd never think of me that way, no matter how much I wished or prayed. She's still on my mind to this day and there's no signs of her budging for quite a while, I know there's no chance of us ever being together but I don't think I'll ever lose hope, no matter how silly I may seem. She still makes my heart flutter and make me look as pink as a prawn, but I like it. All I want to do is hold her hand, look into her eyes and if by any chance kiss her soft pink lips more than anything I want to feel her skin under my fingertips just to be in a close proximity of her gives me butterflies. My skin itches just for me to reach out and touch her to make sure she's real, to make sure I'm not hallucinating. She's my first ever girl-crush.

When love takes over


So most of you have read our article, Next stop…HAPPINESS and we left you wondering what else happened on our journey to Cape Town. Now, the readers that follow this website and the articles I write, know that I usually write generic articles, report on current affairs and go out partying in my column, Social Butterfly. So this is something as new to me as it is to you, this is me exposing myself, my private life, in my most honest work to date…let’s see what happens…


The roadtrip took a bit of an unexpected turn before we even set foot in the car. You see, only 3 of us were supposed to go. But seeing as we spent every single weekend since PGF in each other’s company, it was only natural that I invited Sluticia along for the trip. I’d gotten into such a routine with Nikki and Sluticia, that leaving one of them behind, would be like packing to go on vacation and deliberately not packing shoes or a toothbrush.


The first sign of me being in serious trouble reared its head on the first night. “It’s cold, you better cuddle me…” This was not an unusual request, because as friends we did this all the time. My bbm contact list can testify to this, as usually on a Saturday or Sunday morning I post pictures with the caption, “who’s in my bed”. But this time it felt just a little different, a little too good, and the first butterflies made their presence felt.

The next day at the photoshoot, things also took a bit of a sharp turn. Our Cape Town photographer, Jay, has a habit of taking photos in between setups and captures unscripted moments and snaps away while no one’s taking notice. Also, while in edit, she’ll see things we’re oblivious to at the time and highlight them. It is these photographs, that I only saw afterwards, that made me realise that maybe I’d been blind all along.



Then we went to Simonstown for sightseeing and lunch with my family. Now ladies let me tell you, if you’re walking down a pier, hand in hand, towards the crashing waves, with someone that makes your heart race as the ocean breeze gives you a gentle nudge in the right direction, there’s nothing that can make you crave to be with her more!


The next day I had a business meeting to discuss the future of The Modern L. While I was doing this, she decided it would be a good idea to discuss what was in her head and heart with my niece.  I was unaware of this conversation until the drive home. After the meeting, we decided to tour the Cape Winelands. A truly amazing experience, I have to admit. And of course we had to take lots of photos for our BIG roadtrip scrapbook and in one of those pictures we were told to kiss. My heart stopped and started racing again when this lasted just a little longer than initially anticipated.



After the wine farm, it was time for family dinner, and for the first time in my life, I was glad to be locked out of the house. We waited in the car (it was a typical cold rainy Cape Town winter’s day). I’m not sure if the bubbles in the bubbly at the wine estate went to our heads or if it was sheer boredom, but all of a sudden we became brave and the allure of the forbidden fruit became just a bit too much for both of us to handle. Time stood still as we shared our first “for real, we mean it” kiss and in that moment, all the dreams I never knew I could have, came true.


Later that evening I jokingly told my niece to tell her to date me, which she did, and the reply I got was to ask her properly. Also, later in the car on our way home, I had a heart to heart with my niece and for a 13 year old, she’s very wise and insightful. “You should stop kidding around and joking with her all the time, she doesn’t know when to take you seriously! A blind person can see she likes you, a lot, so don’t mess it up!” It was during this conversation that I found out about the conversation between the two of them.


When we eventually arrived in Jo’burg, we dropped the rest of the crew off, got some take-out and went to my house. I took my time unpacking and getting organised because I needed to gather the courage to ask her to stay…she did, and since then, we haven’t spent an evening apart. And maybe, just maybe…we’ll live happily ever after!



Written by: Miss Jones
Photography by: Jay Alan (Jay Productions)