Build BRIDGES and get over it!

Sunette Bridges, South African singer, and daughter of the late Afrikaans music icon, Bles Bridges, is constantly in hot water because of rantings on her social media platforms. She’s in the press every now and then because of her alleged right wing views and racist remarks but this time she allegedly chose to have a go at the gay community for fighting for our rights.

Bridges allegedly went on to say:

“Nou gaan ek seker behoorlik op die stapel gebrand word, maar DIE besigeheid is vir my Grieks...

Dis erg genoeg dat jy NIE deesdae mag verklaar jy is TROTS BLANK nie, want dan is jy mos 'n Rassis, maar "nevermaaind" daai gedoente... Jy mag ook nie verklaar jy is TROTS Hetroseksueel nie... Ons het nie eers geweet ons is veronderstel om dit te verklaar nie! ...ons "is" maar net...

Nou word ons elke liewe dag gekonfronteer met nog iemand wat MOET bieg hy is TROTS Homoseksueel!

Slaat my met 'n nat vis! Ons verstaan!!!! Ons mag nie oordeel nie... Ons moet dit aanvaar as deel van "hoe dit is"... ons moet weet daar is vlae en organisasies en optogte en betogings vir hierdie regte...

...maar my liewe GENADE! Hoekom dan so tekere gaan daaroor! Sien jy heeldag mense wat optogte te reël om te verklaar dat hulle "Straight" is? Reik ons al wat verklaring is uit om die wêreld se aandag daarop te vestig? Laat ontwerp ons vlae en hou optogte?

Aggeneeman! As jy NIE geoordeel wil word op grond van jou "Slaapkamersake" nie, hou tog op om dit in onse keelgatte af te druk!!!! Sx”

What this basically means is that she doesn’t get why gay people feel the need to shove their sexuality down her throat with our colorful flags and peaceful protests and she doesn’t get why we have to protest for our rights. Unfortunately, when I wanted to take a screenshot of her statement, she’d already removed it. But I do still feel the need to set her straight (Pardon the pun).

Firstly, congratulations on being heterosexual! No one said that you cannot be proud of that fact, I would be too. You can be openly affectionate towards the person you love in any country in the world and no one will ever persecute you for it! Further, you can easily adopt any child you like without anyone questioning what goes on in your bedroom AND you can marry whoever you like and the government, your place of employment, financial service providers and Joe public will recognise it without giving it a second thought.

Secondly, we are PROUDLY homosexual, because people like you, with your narrow minded bigotry, CAN and WILL not force us to live closetet lives in the shadows any more. Unlike you, we have fought a hard battle for decades to have the freedom to love openly and every now and then, we win battles to have the same BASIC freedoms as you straight folk do, and we are PROUD of that fact.

Lastly, the whole point of our flag and our protests are that people NOT judge us, in contradiction to your last statement. No one is forcing anything down your throat, least of all the gay community, because in case you haven’t heard, the boys don’t like girls, and the girls don’t have anything to shove down your throat. If everyone else kept their noses out of our bedrooms, the need for protest marches and rights organisations would be eradicated. But while lesbians are being raped, gay men beaten up and transgender individuals being mutilated just for being who they are, we WILL unite as one and make our voices heard by any means necessary. The same goes for our rights to marry the people we love and to be parents.

By your own admission on numerous occasions, our country is in crisis. And believe it or not, people like you, that only spread messages of intolerance makes the situation worse. It’s such a shame that someone who speaks out against violence such as farm murders and who donates copies of her albums so the proceeds may go to charity, feels the need to satisfy your audience with hate speech, racism and open bigotry. Go google yourself. Your career as a musician, and even your famous legacy is being overshadowed by the ugliness you choose to spit out on your social media platforms. If you don’t like what we do and the concept is “greek” to you, keep it to yourself and leave us in peace, we have done you no harm and we're not going anywhere any time soon.

What the Bible really says about The Gays

Heather Hogan, senior editor of www.afterellen.com let us republish this article she wrote:

I’ve mentioned before that I was born and bred as a Southern Baptist, raised to walk along the narrow path of the most conservative interpretations of the Bible and vote within the guidelines set forth by the Jerry Falwells and James Dobsons of the world. Luckily, I was also born with a good set of critical thinking genes and a hunger for knowledge, so in my grown-up life, I was able to walk away from organized Christianity — which I believe has entered into a mutual hijacking situation with the Republican party, the goal of which is to consolidate power by exploiting ignorance and fear — and reconcile my Biblical knowledge with my life experiences with my intrinsic value system of mercy and goodness.

Funny thing about spending all those years in church, though: I know more about the Bible than I will ever know about anything else. I studied it like it was my job for two decades of my life.

I often have run-ins with former buddies from church, all of whom are really wonderful people on the inside, but most of whom do not have a particularly thorough or enlightened understanding of politics or history or religion. What usually happens is they do some Bible verse-slinging at me, and I patiently try to explain where they’ve been duped by their church or their politicians or their own ingrained prejudices.

Today, I realized it would probably be an even better idea if I just made a reference post so I can point people here and save myself some typing time. Hopefully, you guys will be able to use this as a resource too.

Who's in my bed - Part 1

High gloss A5 prints of the photos featured in this spread are available for R200-00 ex p&p all proceeds go towards the Angel Joubert winter charity drive in aid of Dibanani. Please contact modernmissjones@hotmail.com



Photography:

Jay Alan & Miss Jones

Models:

Minxy

Nikki

Ninja

Coach

Trich

Delia

Sluticia

Hair by:

Minxy's cut

Make-up by:

Lorette

Post-production:

Jay Alan

Miss Jones

Behind GeeGee's Curtain: Taking a dip in the Dyke pond

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Social Butterfly: Spilled Pink at Amuse Café

So, what’s there to do on a Thursday night? In terms of alternative entertainment, something unique, but mind-blowing at the same time? That’s exactly what we got when myself, T, Sluticia and my assistant, Mel, went to check out all new all girl band, Spilled Pink!

The venue was quite cute, for lack of a better description. It’s small and intimate inside, although the space used for the stage was a little disproportionate. The décor very arty, with paintings and graphic art on display and on sale at Amuse café. And the outside section is ideal for a “kuier” and a few drinks with your mates.

I must admit it was a little weird seeing our friend Lizz behind a guitar instead of behind the decks as we’ve come to know her, but what a pleasant surprise. Lizz and Mickey together on guitar and vocals is a rare treat. Myself and T are both seasoned rockers and the first thing I heard T say when they started playing, was WOW, they’re amazing!

Now, local bands, especially musos in the acoustic scene, are a dime a dozen, so it’s hard for newcomers to truly grip an audience, to set themselves apart from the rest and to do something memorable, not only in the cover versions of popular songs they choose to perform, but having an original repertoire that speaks to the soul. And that, from what we’ve seen, is exactly what Spilled Pink has to offer. Mickey and Lizz have tremendous vocal ability that accompanies their talent as songwriters perfectly. Add to that some mad strumming skills and they’ve got the perfect recipe to rock your socks!

The Butterfly chart:

Venue: cccc

Crowd: ccccc (It was mainly Modern L crew, so we’re a little biased)

Bar: ccc

Vibe: ccc

Entertainment: ccccc

Song of the night: Trane (of course)

Even though this was an unforgettable experience, I do have two complaints:

Firstly, from what I experienced, and from what I could gather from the crowd, was that the Spilled Pink set was way too short. We wanted more, a lot more! Then, they didn’t play my favourite song, but they promised to make it up to me, so I’ll hold them to that!

In Loving Memory of Martha Mienie

On the 9^th of July 2012, Co-founder and Co-owner of The Modern L, Martha Mienie took her own life.

Our readers and followers might recognise her name from the brilliant articles, stories and letters she wrote, but for the most part, Martha flew below the radar and kept herself out of the spotlight, to give others a chance to shine. This was her nature. Kind, caring, helpful, intelligent, creative but at the same time, humble, giving, compassionate and selfless.

Martha on her wedding day

Martha was not only an imaginative writer, but an eccentric who loved the stage. She was well known as Feelerdown McBoy, a member of drag king crew, Androgeny, that made their stage debut at Detour and later went on to perform on stage at the Pink GirlFest. Her imagination and creativity shone through in the many projects she had attempted and it is because of her incredible intuition, ambition and sometimes just plain crazy ideas, that these projects were so successful.

Martha on stage at Pink GirlFest

That was Martha in the public eye. To me, Martha was my friend. And no one could have asked for a better friend than her. She was always there when others needed her, always dropped everything to help the people she loved and cared about, always made a plan to help those in need and always put her own dreams and desires on the backburner to please others.

Martha and I at a braai last year

My friend and partner has now left. And I stay behind and pick up the pieces. I’m sad, for myself, because the vacant space can’t be taken by anyone else but her, she was one of a kind and very special, and even though I miss her very much, I cannot judge her for wanting the pain, and heartsore to stop and for the demons and the noise to go away and I know she’s in a better place now, away from all everything that ate away at her, but it doesn’t make the pain go away or make me miss her less.

Martha and Dominique aka Feeler and Danny

Rest in peace my sweet friend, one day we’ll meet again…

“…I guess she thought I'd be a perfect resort because we've had this inexplicable connection since our youth and
yes they're in shock they are panicked you and your chronic them and their drama
you this embarrassment us in the middle of this delusion
if we were our bodies
if we were our futures
if we were our defenses I'd be joining you
if we were our culture
if we were our leaders
if we were our denials I'd be joining you
I remember vividly a day years ago we were camping you knew more than you thought you should know
you said "I don't want ever to be brainwashed" and you were mindboggling you were intense
you were uncomfortable in your own skin you were thirsty but mostly you were beautiful
if we were our nametags
if we were our rejections
if we were our outcomes I'd be joining you
if we were our indignities
if we were our successes
if we were our emotions I'd be joining you
you and I we're like four year olds we want to know why and how come about everything
we want to reveal ourselves at will and speak out minds and never talk small and be intuitive
and question mightily and find god my tortured beacon
we need to find like-minded companions
if we were their condemnations
if we were their projections
if we were our paranoias I'd be joining you
if we were our incomes
if we were our obsessions
if we were our afflictions I'd be joining you
we need reflection we need a really good memory feel free to call me a little more often…”

Our sincerest condolences go out to the people who truly loved and cared for Martha and we would like to thank everyone for their support during this difficult time. A special thank you from me goes out to Dominique for the shoulder and the friendship and kindness you showed to Martha, to Sharon for your insight and encouragement, to Hannah for checking up on me every day, to GeeGee and Straight Stella for letting me vent when things got too much, to Mari-Louise for standing by me through her own pain, Cindelicious for her support, my mom for always worrying too much, and to my fiancé, Lorette, a very big thank you from the bottom of my heart, for everything you did for me and for Martha. I appreciate all of you!

OurSeasons - Fire & Ice

OurSeasons is a collaboration between the 3 gay girl clubbing events in Jozi; 1^st Friday, Open Closet & Skin all partying under one roof!

The event that holds the record as the biggest gay girl clubbing experience in SA is happening the 28^th of July at Eden Nightclub in Rivonia. Eden is the newest night entertainment venue in Jozi. Fabulously designed interiors and sumptuous décor, complemented by state of the art lighting and sound technology, makes this the ultimate party venue. Situated on the corner of Mutual and Rivonia Boulevard.

Expect he following; 2 Dance floors… Fire & Ice. A ‘snow’ machine on the Ice dance floor. Syam will provide fire heaters to create the ambiance on the Fire dance floor. Jack Daniel’s Honey and Stoli vodka will be sure to warm up your inner fire.

Celebrity DJ’s; Koula (Highveld), Nicola da Silva (5fm), Ms Cosmo (Yfm), our very own Lindi Lush and Zai Maya will be rocking the dance floors with DJay Blend, Puggy, Tanzy, Lara T, Ree, Ice, Ts Ntsoaki and Beat-Slutz with Adel on drums!!!

 

 

Mesmerizing fire dancers will add to your entertainment pleasure, proudly sponsored by Hair Mosaic.

Enormous prizes are up for grabs!

- Pre marketing draw by tagging yourself on the flyer loaded on Facebook and adding your computicket reference number:

1x All inclusive Ski Trip to Lesotho sponsored by the Pink GirlFest for one lady.

1x Helicopter ride (30min) over Suikerbosrand Nature Reserve for 2 ladies.

1x Nights accommodation for 2 ladies sharing at the Fire & Ice Hotel , Melrose Arch.

- Prizes at the event:

1x  Fire Table Top Bio Oil Heater sponsored by Syam.

Alcohol promotion with spectacular prizes from the all new Jack Daniel’s Honey.

Entrance for this amazing event is R100.00 per lady and ticket sales are available at all computicket retailers. Door sales will also be available on the evening at R100.00 per lady. Please select one of the three gay girl events you’re a member of when purchasing tickets under ‘select number of tickets’ at computicket: http://online.computicket.com/web/event/ourseasons_fire_and_ice/648863017/0/48824932

Kindly note that this is a ladies only event. From the girls, for the girls…

Share this Link on Facebook, and stand a chance to win a double ticket to Ourseasons: Fire & Ice!